As caregiver children, we have been labeled the “sandwich generation,” as we attempt to balance our caregiving responsibilities for our elderly parents and our own children.

But, how about the needs of our parents who are helping to raise our children, either on a full or part-time basis?

Devise a caregiving schedule that accommodates both your children’s needs and those of your elderly loved ones. For example, if your elderly loved one has difficulty driving at night, then it would make more sense to attempt to schedule your children’s activities during the day. Be aware of your parents’ current health needs. Not only do your children need to see a physician regularly, but so do your parents. In addition to normal vaccinations that your children may need, your parents also need to schedule yearly screening and tests, such as colonoscopy’s and mammograms.

It is inevitable that your parents may want or may need to support your children financially. Lower your parents’ out-of-pocket expenses by ensuring that they are enrolled in the most cost effective Medicare Part D plan or statewide prescription drug benefit plan in order to lower their monthly medication expenses. Would they qualify for any energy assistance or weatherization programs within the home that would help to lower their monthly energy bills? In addition, would your parents qualify for any nutrition assistance programs, such as food stamps, meals on wheels, or congregate meal site programs? Would your parents qualify for any benefits to help pay for their hearing aides?

Don’t forget that your parents need support and respite, too. Are there area support groups for specific grandparenting issues? How about tips to assist in bridging the generational gap? Check out AARP’s Grandparent Information Center at www.aarp.org/grandparents or call (888) 687-2277 to read up on grandparenting specific issues or to get connected to statewide support groups. In addition, books by Dr. Arthur Kornhaber, “The Grandparent Solution” and “The Grandparent Guide,” are also great resources.

Come up with activities that both your children and elderly loved ones would enjoy. Play the Nintendo interactive gaming system, the Wii, together. Share family history. Attend baseball games. Take a walk or a hike at a local park. Go see a movie or show together. Your children will never forget the times they shared with their grandparents, and your parents will thank you for those opportunities to become involved in your children’s lives.